How to Host a Sober Party

The holidays can feel like they’re centered around alcohol. But they don’t have to. Our sister organization, Touchstone Recovery Organization in Fresno, California, recently hosted a podcast featuring our CEO, Nolen Burchett and Laura Nelson. Laura is co-founder of Sober Life Rocks, speaker, and author of The Inclusive Event Planner—a must-read guide designed to help you plan events that make guests feel more connected, engaged, and satisfied with their experience. Whether it’s a corporate gathering, a small business mixer, or an everyday party, this book sparks the conversation about creating sober-friendly environments that foster authentic connections.

Here are Some of Laura’s Tips for Hosting a Sober-Friendly Event:

Having people who know and support you can make a huge difference in how you feel before, during, and after an outing or event. And if you don’t have a support friend where you’re going, but you’re still determined to make an appearance, make sure you have someone to text or call.

1. Create a Welcoming Space for Those in Recovery. Make it clear that your event is sober-friendly. When someone in recovery walks into a room and sees others who are also sober, they feel supported and not alone.
2. Offer Thoughtful Drink Options. Go beyond sodas. Include creative mocktails or non-alcoholic beverages that everyone can enjoy. 
3. Shift the Focus Away From Alcohol. Don’t let alcohol be the centerpiece of your event. Plan engaging activities that bring people together:
   • Hire a comedian, magician, or live band
   • Organize karaoke, a trivia night, or a scavenger hunt
   • Set up party games or a DIY photo booth
4. Choose an Inclusive Venue. Pick a location that’s comfortable for everyone, especially those in recovery. Instead of a bar or winery, consider outdoor spaces, community centers, or other neutral venues. If your event is indoors, provide quieter areas or outdoor seating so guests can relax away from loud music or the bar area.

In addition to Nelson’s advice, some effective methods for staying sober in social settings include:

• Preparing a response in advance for when someone offers a drink. Here’s a quick guide if you need tips.
• Bringing a sober friend for support and accountability.
• Attending a sobriety meeting beforehand to reinforce a sober lifestyle.
• Helping the host to stay engaged with the party atmosphere.
• Steering clear of toxic relationships, toxic family members, or influences. In alcohol rehab, individuals learn to recognize potential triggers and avoid people who may lead to relapse.
• Keeping a sponsor informed about the party and possible triggers.
• Leaving the event—without feeling shame or guilt.

If you’re in recovery, it’s important to build a healthy, active social life. It normalizes a substance-free lifestyle, helps you build healthy relationships and support networks, and supports mental health.

More Tips for the Party Host

When planning a holiday party with a mix of guests—those who drink responsibly and those in recovery from substance use disorders—it’s essential to create a space where everyone feels welcome and comfortable.

If you’re worried your event could affect a loved one’s sobriety, approach the situation with openness and care:

• Be Transparent: Let your guests know ahead of time if alcohol will be served so they can make informed decisions.
• Offer Support: Encourage guests in recovery to bring a sober companion (or more) for added comfort.
• Provide Flexibility: Allow those in recovery the freedom to decline the invitation, even at the last minute, and respect their choice without judgment.
• Stay Inclusive: Continue to extend invitations in the future, understanding that their comfort with social gatherings may grow over time.

By being thoughtful and intentional, you can ensure your holiday celebration is a safe and enjoyable experience for all. For more sober party ideas, check out the podcast—and if you need extra support staying sober during the holidays, call (559) 702-5180.